There are many times when we may have to face a difficult decision in life. For some of us, it may be a matter of deciding which job to take or perhaps choosing an apartment. Those decisions come and go but then there are also choices that are going to affect us for the rest of our lives. That is what this woman had to face when she came up against a decision that no woman should ever have to come up against.
The 30-year-old divorced woman in this story is really having a difficult time. She is living a life that many young women are living, that of trying to raise a child on her own and at the same time, still living life and looking for some adult companionship.
The woman in this story has a boyfriend but she also has a very difficult decision to make, because he is asking her to do something that would seem to be almost impossible. He is also divorced and has a son and although he may know how important it is for child to spend time with their parents, he doesn’t want her to continue to see her son.
More than likely, you are probably in shock over this situation and wondering how anyone could possibly ask something like that. Look down through this story and the letter that was written. It really is an eye-opening experience.
The woman in this story posted on to the blog, “Dear Wendy” and said she had joint custody of her son with her ex-husband. She got to see him on the weekends but her boyfriend, however, did not want her to see him at all.
When the man proposed, he asked her to give up her son completely.
“I did tell him that my parents want to spend time with my son too and they can only do that on the alternate weekends I see him. He told me that he wants to go overseas to work and meanwhile I can use this period to think about whether I want to give up my son for him.”
She did think about giving up her son after they were married but it makes her anxious. She doesn’t know how to answer her parents because her mom suffers from depression and her dad has cancer.
“I don’t want them to be sad knowing that they will lose a grandson. My boyfriend told me when we started dating that he could not accept my son, and I know not all men can. I’m actually prepared to give up my son after marriage, but my boyfriend wants me to do it right now. I want to be with my boyfriend and yet I can’t bear to let my parents feel sad because of their illnesses. I also have a mother’s guilt in me because my son loves me so much. What should I do?”
Needless to say, tensions have run fairly high on this discussion. One user even said that she was with a “monster of a man… Shame on you.”
The same user also went on to write that she is apparently so desperate and lonely that she would throw away her child for a husband. They suggested that she should get therapy and figure out what is wrong with her.
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